THE MIGHTY OAK TREE
Learning from nature is an insatiable endeavor. We learn so much from creation. How natural systems have an interdependence, how animals care for each other, and our symbiotic relationship with our home, the Earth. I’m regularly surprised by the lessons we can glean from nature. Take trees, for example. What can we learn from the oak tree?
I learned something interesting while watching a video about woodworking on YouTube. The woodworker was cutting down, or more technically, ripping, a piece of oak. The main topic of the video had absolutely nothing to do with ripping wood. It was about creating a jig - a template of sorts to aid woodworkers. The woodworker ripped the oak plank into the size that he needed for the project at hand. What happened next has stayed with me since.
Speaking from my own experiences, trauma manifests itself in SO many ways. Stress is probably the most obvious manifestation, risky behavior, and mental illness being others. The current pandemic adds isolation, increased anxiety, and a litany of other issues for those who live with trauma. Getting to the point, trauma looks VERY different from person to person. Some of us can manage it well. Others suffer visibly and require additional supports. Therein lies the lesson derived from the mighty oak tree.
What do you think of when you hear the word “oak tree?” Do you think of wine, whiskey, or mezcal? Maybe you think of barbecue or acorns and natural beauty. The oak tree is hardwood, meaning that it is denser compared to other woods. Woodworkers covet it for its beauty, strength, and longevity. In fact, most woodworkers prefer a simplistic approach to create with oak because of the majesticness of its wood grain, color and look. On the surface, oak looks strong, capable, and beautiful. Similarly, those that suffer from trauma, on the surface, may look quite able, but “underneath,” the opposite may be more accurate.
With every year of growth, a tree can experience many obstacles. From sickness to lack of growth. Unfavorable climate, internal weakness, and many other issues. And still, the tree continues to grow - regardless of the circumstances. Sometime later, when the tree is foraged and turned into lumber, its grain tells a story. What can appear as a strong plank of oak can be quite the opposite. As the aforementioned woodworker ripped the plank of oak, the cut off (the piece of wood that was removed from the plank) was visibly different. The color and grain were the same, clearly. However, the cut off was no longer true - it was not perpendicular to the plank it came from. The lack of symmetry was not related to the cut, rather the stress the wood was under that only became visible once it was altered - cut away from the plank.
That was the moment of realization! The distortion resulted from years of stress that had grown into the oak tree, only showing itself once the tree was altered. I think trauma is EXACTLY the same. All of us have experienced some form of trauma in our lives. Some so much more compared to others. And yet, just like the oak tree, we continued living on - growing in life. Possibly, unbeknownst to us, growing in life with engrained stress. Waiting, only to manifest itself later in life. But it isn’t all somber. Not by a long shot!
After acknowledging the stressed cut off of oak, the YouTuber used the wood to make the jig. The piece of oak still served its purpose, even while stressed. Another moment of realization! Living with trauma is NOT the end of the story. As distorted as we may be because of recent events, life issues, or other circumstances, we still can fulfill our purpose. Humans and our issues are clearly not as simple as a piece of wood. However, we can still derive hope and joy from the lesson. The woodworker used his mastery of the product to turn the stressed cut off into a purposeful object. Now more than ever, we need to do the same! We need others who have mastery - mentors, coaches, friends, and family, to help us manage our lives' stresses. We too have a purpose. Despite our negative experiences, we can show our beauty, strength, and longevity by staying connected to those that love us and nurturing ourselves to gain the determination we need to be stable and strong.
We learn SO much from nature. The mighty oak tree is no exception!
12/20/2020
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